Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places—and in too many faces—only to find more pain and despair?
Then it may be time to uncover the truth about where true love actually lives.
You don’t need an endless search for Mr. or Mrs. Right. And you don’t have to settle f
How to Gracefully Go with the Flow of Life to live an enchanted life.
Why is it that some people seem to live an enchanted life and others at the same time are struggling merely to survive?
The difference is that those that live an enchanted life are choosing a state of grace where they peacefully surrender to the natural flow of all things. Grace allows them to live in faith and express trust in what ever is in any given moment.
You can live this way as well as soon as you accept a life supported by the state of grace. Infusing yourself with grace, rather than ingesting an element based in avoidance or distractive behavior, will assist you in being present where you can fully understand that any challenge in your life, past or present, was created by your thoughts and attitude.
You will come to realize all you think and feel, consciously or not has or is momentarily manifesting as a projected illusion so that you may be aware of what you are giving your attention to. When you see clearly what you have been focusing on this gives you an opportunity to be choose differently. Your day to day experiences good or bad are just illusions, they are waking state dreams for you to choose to think and feel differently if those experiences are less than desirable. All of your illusions are nothing more than a mere stepping stone to realizing who you really are and what you truly intend to achieve.
When you choose to live in a state of grace you come to know that all, both those experiences perceived as good and those perceived as adverse were and are for your highest and best good. Choosing a state of Grace is shifting your attitude resulting in a change for the better in your manifested experiences. Choosing a state of Grace allows you to surrender to the flow and thusly your day-to-day existence is filled with magical miracles rather than struggle and adversity.
When you live in Grace you will feel and express only love, happiness and gratitude for all the wonderful things occurring in your life; which of course can only fuel creating more of the same.
How do you choose a state of Grace?
First it is important to know what Grace is.
Grace is a manifestation of favor or goodwill endowed upon you from a higher source, be it what you might call God, Spirit or your higher self. It matters not what you call it, it only matters that you receive and accept it.
When you accept grace you not only live in grace where your life is filled with elegance but you act in grace as well where you, your manner, and your deeds and motions are beautiful and you lovingly extend the favor and honor of grace to other people, places and things by your example.
Those that live in Grace experience an exalted life and those that struggle a stressful, strife filled live are referred to as having fallen from grace. You do not fall from grace as a result of punishment, you fall as a result of personal choice stemming from negative thoughts that generate unhealthy emotions and result in distasteful experiences and less than fortunate circumstances. When you fall from grace you have consciously or unconsciously chosen to accept a life of disfavor, one filled with far less than you really deserve.
The state of Grace comes naturally when you decide to raise your thoughts into a higher awareness by placing your attention on the good of all regardless of whether it momentarily appears to be good or not. When you accept Grace you are bestowed with the favor of goodwill, you let go of the unhealthy controlling behavior of attempting to figure out every step along your path before you move an inch. You replace that behavior with the faith and trust that your life is enchanted. Your life then becomes void of strife and struggle and miraculously appears to work for you instead of against you.
Choose to focus on the truth that you are in the favor of the highest source and you are continuously receiving grace. If and when something occurs that appears to be in direct opposition to what you were intending or dreaming about, be still and call upon grace to fill your heart, mind and spirit with the peaceful knowingness that you are in God’s favor and all that happens does so for a reason that may be far beyond your immediate comprehension. In this action you are letting go and letting God and you will be assured with multiple forms confirming all is well, allowing you to gracefully go with the flow of life of life!
Many people find themselves in a R.U.T. — Restrained Under Terror — feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unable to move forward.
The circumstances may differ — relationships, health, finances, grief, work, or purpose — but the feeling is often the same: nothing seems to change.
This frustration can slowly turn into hopelessness.
Over years of guiding others, I’ve heard the same quiet longing beneath many struggles:
“I want peace.”
“I want to feel better.”
“I want love.”
“I want freedom.”
“I want to be happy.”
Being in a rut is like getting a car stuck in mud. The harder you press the gas using the same habits, thoughts, and reactions, the deeper the wheels spin without moving forward. Exhaustion replaces hope.
But the rut itself is not the problem — unconscious repetition is.
The first step toward change is simply awareness.
When you pause, become present, and shift your attention inward, something begins to soften. You remember that beneath conditioning, fear, and old patterns, your deeper self is still reaching toward light, clarity, and wholeness.
You are not trapped — you are being invited to choose differently.
A new meaning for R.U.T. can emerge:
Reconnect • Universal • Truth
When you reconnect with presence, awareness, and self-trust, life begins to move again.
Not through force — but through conscious choice.
You always have the authority to begin again.
Somatic Practice Get Out of the RUT
There are many ways to follow your heart and move toward happiness, purpose, and fulfillment. The simplest begins with allowing yourself to express the true spirit of who you are — without being guided by fear, judgment, or the expectations of others.
You do not need to figure out every step. Your role is to listen inward.
Following your heart begins with presence — gently tuning into your emotions and noticing what brings warmth, peace, curiosity, or joy. These feelings are guidance. When something makes you smile or feel alive inside, pay attention. That is your inner wisdom speaking.
You can begin simply by noticing what lifts your spirit throughout the day and allowing those experiences to guide your choices, one moment at a time.
Following your heart does not mean avoiding responsibility or harming others. It means responding to yourself with compassion and honesty — honoring what you truly feel while living with respect for life and others.
Responsibility is the ability to respond with love to what you feel in the present moment. Obligation, by contrast, often comes from fear — and over time can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection from self.
As you practice listening inward, trust in yourself grows. Peace becomes more natural. Life begins to feel less forced and more like a meaningful unfolding.
When you care for yourself with presence and love, you naturally move toward what is right for you — and life begins to support you in return.
Somatic Practice Follow Your Heart
When you were born, imagine how life might have been different if you had heard these words upon taking your first breath. It is not too late, because each moment is a new beginning and each breath can cleanse away all that was, creating a new awareness and a better life. Imagine yourself being birthed in this very moment and listen to what the Oneness of all things has to say to you, its beloved radiant and magnificent child.
Beloved One, do you remember you are one of mine? One of the radiant, magnificent children of God who once dwelt in the Kingdom of Heaven? It is you, soul sister or brother, whom I address. It is you, radiant child of God, I AM calling to remember to live on earth as you did in heaven. Remember who you truly are. You are Divinity in form, and I am calling to you to stay awake and aware so life on earth can be and always will be just like Heaven.
In the beginning there was only the ONE, and for the ONE to become aware of and know itself, many aspects of the One digressed into form. There is no wrongdoing in this. It is simply the lowering of vibrational rate so consciousness can come into density and form. This is the gift of the ONE — to exercise free will and free choice for the purpose of experience, the experience of knowing self.
Many souls, just like you, utilized this heavenly gift and manifested into human form. You chose to digress into the evolution of the soul through incarnation. As part of this experience, your vibrational frequency slowed and you took on the lower mental body — the ego. With this came the veil of forgetfulness and the illusion of separation.
To know self more deeply, you also divided into two aspects — male and female. Since that first choice in the soul’s evolutionary cycle many eons ago, you have been working diligently to overcome the incorrect belief of being separated from the ONE.
This illusion became encoded within the physical body. Yet the soul of you has continually called out in devotion to return to the ONE. The soul — the all-knowing aspect of you — lovingly speaks to the ego through the heart, guiding you to overturn the illusion of separation so you may remember you are ONE and have never been punished through rejection, betrayal, or abandonment.
Acceptance of this truth overturns the false belief that you are a lesser child of God or Goddess. Lifetime after lifetime, believing yourself to be less than has created cycles of self-punishment, yet even these experiences lovingly support your awakening to your magnificent divinity.
Painful experiences can be transformed through higher understanding when you allow yourself to feel them so they may be released. In doing so, you come to know who you truly are and where you originate from.
The experience of separation and loneliness was created by incorrect belief and sustained by negative attitude. Only you can re-create your experience by returning to harmony with the ONE. Because you believed you were separated from your Source, you became separated from love of self.
Yet the ego is not your enemy — it is part of your remembering. It continues its patterns until you choose to change your attitude about yourself. When beliefs of abandonment or rejection arise, they simply signal that you are still behind the veil of forgetfulness.
For many eons you, along with others, have longed to be free of these illusions so you may return home. To come home, you awaken to the truth that you are a magnificent aspect of the Oneness of all. As this awareness grows, the heart opens and releases long-held grief, allowing you to feel again and live authentically without the belief that you are less than.
You return to love and live in love.
When fear dissolves, prosperity naturally follows. To live without fear is to live with a brave and courageous heart — a heart that sings its own song and moves through life with trust, compassion, and freedom.
The time is now to return to your natural state of love. This is not something you must become; it is something you already are.
You are not a lesser child of God. The Father and Mother, God and Goddess, gave all their children free will and free choice as sacred gifts. There is no need for punishment for using these gifts.
It is time to free your mind and heart so the soul of you can fully express itself — the union of higher wisdom and loving grace.
You can return to your starry origins in Heaven, yet you do not have to wait. You can live Heaven on Earth now.
Come home, beloved, to the truth where your peaceful mind, loving heart, expansive soul, and free spirit live in harmony.
You are being birthed again in this moment. You are a magnificent child of God and Goddess — an aspect of the ONE remembering itself.
Imagine how life can change as you accept this truth. You were never abandoned. Messengers of love have always been present and always will be.
Come back to love so your imagination may manifest. All dreams become possible through the pathway of love.
Somatic Practice Betrayal and Abandonment
If you desire to Stop Pain, Anger, Depression, Resentment; then it is time to forgive.
There are many ways to accomplish Forgiveness, the following ways are my personal tools to move out through forgiveness to return to Love!
1. The Mental Choice of Forgiveness
2. The Wise Soul / Body Choice of Forgiveness
When we are in our mental bodies with Forgiveness our truth is:
a. We believe someone did us wrong. When we believe we have been
wronged and continue to hold someone, something and/or someplace
outside of ourselves accountable for the wrongdoing; it is no
different than drinking poison and expecting the other person to
die.
b. We believe we did something wrong to another. When we believe
we did something wrong to another, we simply drink the poison
fully knowing it will kill us.
We flip back and forth between believing someone did us wrong
versus we did something wrong to another.
Either belief stagnates us and eventually paralyzes us from
moving forward into the joyous feelings that allow us to live in
Heaven on Earth. To not forgive is the soulful death of us. We
stop our growth right in that moment of believing we were
wronged or did wrong.
To Forgive as defined in the dictionary:
1. To grant pardon for or remission of an offense, a debt, etc.;
to absolve
2. To give up all claim on account of; remit a debt, obligation,
etc.
3. To cease to feel resentment against another
4. To cancel an indebtedness or liability.
In the dictionary there are a minimum of 40 terms describing ways to forgive; and thusly comes the empowering choice of growing by moving forward through forgiveness or
staying stagnant where your mind rots in blame and inflicting
punishment upon someone else or your self.
To choose to stymie our growth is choosing hell, it is choosing fear and those choices perpetuate the vicious cycle of non-acceptance, expressed through self-blame or projected blame onto another.
We accuse which then causes us to fearfully limit our relationships through censuring them, unfortunately that is nothing more than censuring our own lives as well. We charge
forward with judgment, engaging in making someone else or our selves accountable and thusly the results are punishment of self or punishment of others. Then shame follows which fuels the fires of repeating the same negative outcome over and over again.
To choose to grow is choosing peace a heavenly experience right here on earth, it is choosing love, it is choosing to move beyond critical judgment of self and all others.
How beautiful to have an array of multiple options to be able to free us through forgiveness so we may grow and move forward.
It is the mental body that is holding the incorrect truth (what you have come to believe as a result of your fantasized negative perception). And the physical body suffers from the toxic energies. This negative fantasy fuels the fear-based emotions of anger, resentment and even hatred for another or for your self. The mental body is what we have been conditioned to believe; it is a taught behavior and does not even closely resemble who you truly are; the Soul.
The Soul Wisdom Choice:
The Soul and its divine expression, your magnificence, the Spirit; is being held back if you choose to not forgive self or others for what you believe you did to them or they to you. The body will manifest this tether thru physical pain and other symptoms; as well as lack of all the wonderful things you intend.
The Soul needs not any teaching. The Soul does not need to forgive, as it knows already there is no wrong doing on your part or any one else's. The Soul knows it is has been gifted
free will and free choice. The Soul knows that the use of such a great gift is to become aware through experience and is thusly not punishable. The Soul engages in the use of the gift to become aware of self as through experience it recalls what is right for the soul and what is not right for the soul.
The soul knows this is individual choice and what is right for it, may not be necessarily right for another in any given moment of time.
As the soul remembers what is right for it, the soul does not engage in anything that is harmful unto itself or another. Yet the soul has been continuously oppressed by the mental body; so how do we move from the lower mind limiting behavior to the freedom of the expression of the soul.
I personally preferred two which lovingly compliment one another.
Dismiss from the mind by knowing you did no wrong.
Feel it out rather than the viscous cycle of continually ruminating, trying to figure it out.
You can dismiss from your mind, your mental body by realizing the higher truth of the experience, what the wise soul knows already. And you can free the body by listening to where the energy of non forgiveness is residing and then following thru with an actual movement the body is requesting.
Ok, now most of you are probably thinking easier said then done. The actual higher truth is that it is easier done than said, because it takes far more time and precious energy to engage in the mental debate.
Many of those whom have worked with me on a personal guidance level, already know the ease of going into their hearts to dismiss incorrect truths, expressed through limiting beliefs from their minds. (Do it yourself)
They are guided to meet directly with their soul and other souls in the safe, nurturing, and loving place called the heart. Once you are facilitated the first time, you have an empowering tool that you can use whenever and wherever you choose in any moment and do not need to be dependent upon another for your health and well being.
As your facilitator I AM present as a guide until such time you are confident in guiding yourself. This is vitally important so that you are empowered with tools of independence by first learning how to do it with the direction of someone who knows the path and the pitfalls from experience.
What is really happening is that you are the real guide, the higher aspect of you is the master and directs the facilitator to guide you to your self and the highest truths of the soul you are.
The facilitator does not do it for you, they cannot any more than they can show you how to breathe and then attempt to breathe for you. It is far more empowering for you to realize
and feel the strength and courage of self by facing the self limiting mental body with the divine love of self. This is safely accomplished by following the guide who has embarked on
this trail numerous times. Once you are shown the way, you cannot only do it yourself, but guide others as well to freedom through forgiveness.
Have you been looking for love in all the wrong places—and in too many faces—only to find more pain and despair?
Then it may be time to uncover the truth about where true love actually lives.
You don’t need an endless search for Mr. or Mrs. Right. And you don’t have to settle for Mr. or Mrs. Right Now. When you chase love outside yourself, you can slowly lose who you are—trying to please someone who can never truly be satisfied. In that dynamic, your energy drains, your power shifts outward, and the cycle of feeling betrayed or abandoned repeats.
Instead of surviving in the lack of love, turn your attention toward the one who most deserves it: you. This is where healing begins—where you become aware of the inner beliefs and old imprints that have led you to give so much without receiving in return.
True love is the remembrance—and the moment-to-moment practice—of self-love.
It is the living expression of your worth and Divine Magnificence.
When you attend to your inner world, you naturally stop attracting relationships that feel dishonoring, disrespectful, or unsafe. Healing can happen quickly when the heart is open and willing to receive.
For many, the difficulty in accepting self-love comes from painful experiences—past relationships, childhood wounds, even deeper soul-level memories—held in the body and encoded in the cells. Beneath the surface, the nervous system may still be living from an old story: I’m unworthy. I’m not lovable. I’ll be left.
The ego (the fearful, survival-based mind) tries to explain the feeling of separation by assuming something must be wrong with you—so it creates cycles of punishment, scarcity, and self-abandonment. Yet this pain carries a hidden gift: it repeatedly brings you back to the same truth until you’re ready to live it.
The truth is simple:
No one is denying you love—except the part of you that hasn’t yet learned to give it to yourself.
When you believe you lack love, you seek someone else to fill the space. You may become the one who gives and gives (the victim), or the one who takes without ever feeling satisfied (the abuser). Both roles are rooted in the same wound: disconnection from your own wholeness.
Real love begins when you become whole within. A whole person vibrates with self-trust and self-respect; they don’t need another to complete them, though they may choose partnership. A fearful, “half” self lives in need and anxiety—and that frequency attracts more of the same.
As you return to wholeness, your relationships change. People become mirrors: those who disturb you reveal something you’re avoiding in yourself; those who inspire you reflect a beauty that already lives within you.
To realize true love, practice self-love in real ways:
Your true love is you.
And when you live from that truth, you no longer chase love—you radiate it.
When the victim within is finally heard, it becomes victorious. Your life shifts from “woes” to “wows.” Your aura is crowned with the light of self-respect, and relationships become equal, supportive, and safe.
This is the end of the search—and the beginning of the homecoming.
Come join those already shining in the light of true love: lovers on the bright side of the street.