What is Somatic Living ?
Somatic Living is the practice of experiencing life through somatic awareness and being present in the moment. Rather than dwelling on thoughts about the past or future, you learn to engage with your physical sensations, emotions, breath, and inner signals that guide you toward balance and well-being. By gently tuning into the body with curiosity and compassion, Somatic Living supports nervous system regulation, calms the nervous system, releases stored stress, and restores a sense of safety and connection with yourself. Over time, this embodied awareness enhances clearer intuition, emotional resilience, and more conscious choices. Somatic Living is not about fixing yourself — it is about returning to the wisdom that you already possess, often cultivated through mindfulness coaching.
With gentle guidance through mindfulness coaching, you’ll be supported in letting go of the past, regulating your nervous system, quieting fear of the future, and staying grounded in the now—where somatic awareness, clarity, and conscious creation live.
The Benefits of Living Somatically
A strong, vibrant body through mindfulness coaching
A peaceful, focused mind enhanced by nervous system regulation
An open, loving, happy heart cultivated by somatic awareness
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Betrayal and Abandonment Somatic Living Exercise
Somatic Practice - How to Deal with Betrayal and Abandonment
"Returning to Safety Within"
This mindfulness coaching practice helps the nervous system release stored emotional charge and reconnect with inner safety and self-trust.
**Ground the Body**
Sit comfortably with both feet on the floor or lie down.
Place one hand on your heart and one on your lower belly.
Take slow, gentle breaths without forcing them.
Allow your shoulders and jaw to soften.
Simply notice: You are here. You are breathing.
**Acknowledge the Feeling**
Bring awareness to the sensation of betrayal or abandonment without analyzing the story.
Ask yourself:
Where do I feel this in my body?
You may notice tightness in the chest, heaviness in the stomach, or tension in the throat.
Let the sensation exist without trying to change it.
**Stay With the Sensation**
Breathe slowly into the area where the feeling lives in the body.
Imagine creating space around the sensation rather than pushing it away.
You might silently say:
"This feeling is allowed."
"I can be with this."
"I am safe right now."
This helps the nervous system shift from protection into regulation, promoting somatic awareness.
**Offer Compassion to Yourself**
Gently press your hand into your heart.
Imagine speaking to yourself the way you would comfort a child or dear friend.
For example:
"You did not deserve to be hurt."
"I am here with you."
"You are not alone now."
Let the body receive these words.
**Return to the Present Moment**
Slowly notice your surroundings — the room, sounds, light, or the feeling of the chair supporting you.
Take three slow breaths.
Allow the body to settle naturally.
This practice doesn’t erase the past — it helps the body release the emotional imprint of it, restoring safety, presence, and self-connection.
Over time, practicing this gently retrains the nervous system to understand: abandonment happened — but you are no longer alone with the feeling.
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Let Go of Guilt, Shame and Blame Somatic Living Exercise
Somatic Practice - Let Go of Guilt, Shame and Blame
Let go of guilt, shame, and blame through the transformative power of forgiveness and the Violet Flame.
One effective tool I want to share is the Violet Flame or light, which can easily be applied at any moment and practiced continually without outside assistance. The color violet embodies the energy of transmutation, making it ideal for changing negative thoughts, feelings, situations, or even people—yourself included—into something positive.
First, find a comfortable place to sit or lie down to begin your mindfulness coaching journey. I use the term 'play' because your mental body often resists terms like 'exercise' or 'discipline.' This resistance can hinder your ability to take the loving time you deserve for nervous system regulation and somatic awareness, especially when it comes to forgiveness. The mental body would rather cling to being right than allow happiness to flow.
Create a peaceful environment where you can connect with your inner wisdom; your soul! This could be a cozy chair by a sunlit window or a serene spot in nature.
To make it as easy as possible, simply move a chair to a window in your home during a time when you will not be distracted by others. Clearly communicate to those around you that you are taking time for yourself for the next 30 minutes to an hour, setting the intention not to be interrupted. By doing so, you take responsibility for your well-being and avoid placing blame on others should interruptions occur.
Sit in your chair, close your eyes, and envision a cylinder-shaped tube of brilliant violet light. Expand the tube so that more than one person can stand within it. Invite the person, place, or situation that challenges you to step into the violet light. You can enter the tube after them or go in first.
Stand face to face, acknowledging that it may be difficult to look into each other's eyes at first. Don't worry—just stand there. Allow the violet light to fill your entire body by breathing it in continuously. The other person will begin to do the same. Stay in the light for at least 15 minutes, absorbing the violet light until it transforms into brilliant white light.
Now, look into each other's eyes; this will feel easier as the negative thoughts and feelings you've held are transmuted into positivity by the violet light. Thank one another for participating in this process that clears the ego-based fears and lower mental bodies with the love and knowingness of your souls.
You can embrace, hug, or express affection in whatever way feels appropriate, realizing that you are the same and that there is no judgment of self or others. This connection is possible because, while breathing in the violet light, clarity of higher truth was revealed, allowing you to express emotions like anger or blame without harm to yourself or others.
Step out of the tube, but take the white light with you for the rest of your day. You can practice this every day, whether with the same person facing a long-standing challenge or in an instant as new challenges arise.
A Testimony:
During my divorce, I used the practice of transmuting with the violet flame daily for six months. Consumed by anger, resentment, and fear, I felt like a victim in a battle filled with escalating emotions and attorneys. Then I remembered my commitment to live in peace, love, and inner freedom.
I recognized that forgiveness was the key to returning to that state—offering forgiveness to my estranged husband, to the situation, and most importantly, to myself. I had to release the belief that I was 'less than' or deserving of loss, and I learned to give myself what I hoped to receive from others.
Through the guidance of the violet flame practice, I chose forgiveness repeatedly, regardless of external circumstances. One week before our court date, everything shifted. My former husband approached me with tears, sincerely apologized, and returned what had been contested—the home and the agreed financial settlement. We chose peace over conflict and compassion over fear.
That moment demonstrated the true power of forgiveness and the somatic practice of feeling the violet flame transmuting everything within me that did not serve my intention of love. Although our lives took different paths, we both moved forward with love instead of resentment. Forgiveness liberated us—not by changing the past, but by transforming how we held it within ourselves.
From the soul’s perspective, forgiveness reveals a deeper truth: there was never anything to forgive—only experiences guiding us back to love.
Affirmations:
I am safe within myself. I am worthy of love, connection, and belonging.
I release the pain of the past and return to trust in myself.
I do not abandon myself—I meet myself with love and presence.
In this moment, I am supported, whole, and not alone.
Somatic Meditation — Becoming Your Own True Love
True Love
Get Grounded and Present
Find a comfortable seated or lying position. Allow your body to soften and your breath to slow.
Gently close your eyes.
Take a slow breath in through your nose… and exhale through your mouth.
Again — inhale slowly and exhale, letting your shoulders drop.
Now bring your awareness into your body.
Notice the weight of your body being supported by the earth beneath you. You do not need to hold yourself up right now.
You are held.
Place one hand over your heart and one hand over your belly.
Feel the warmth of your hands. Feel your breath moving beneath them.
There is nothing to fix. Nothing to change. Nothing to become.
Just feel.
Begin to Listen to Your Body
Bring your awareness to your heart center. Notice any sensation present: warmth, tightness, openness, heaviness, numbness — all are welcome.
Silently say to yourself: “I am here with you.”
Pause and feel what happens in your body. Now bring awareness to your belly.
This is the center of safety, identity, and emotional memory. Breathe gently into this space. Say softly inside: “You are safe with me.”
Allow your nervous system to hear these words, as this is an essential aspect of nervous system regulation.
Reclaim Self-Love
Imagine now that you are sitting across from yourself — the younger you, the hurting you, the tired you, the brave you — all aspects of you.
Notice what you feel in your body as you see yourself. Without forcing anything, gently say: “I will not abandon you.”
Pause.
Feel the response in your chest, throat, or belly.
Now say: “I choose you.”
Breathe slowly.
And then: “I love you exactly as you are.”
Let your body receive those words instead of trying to believe them. Somatic love is not thinking — it is allowing.
Integration - Merging with Self Love
Imagine now that the version of you sitting across from you stands up and slowly steps into your heart.
You are no longer separate. You are together. Whole.
Notice how your body feels when there is no one to chase, no one to prove yourself to, no one to become for love.
Just breathing. Just being. Just loving.
Closing
Take three slow breaths.
With each exhale, allow your body to soften more deeply into support. When you are ready, gently open your eyes.
Carry this knowing with you:
You are the love you have been searching for. And your body already knows how to return you there through mindfulness coaching and somatic awareness.
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