Somatic Living - Complimentary Guidance with Eloryia RA Mindful Mentor and Transformational Coach

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Let go of guilt, shame, and blame through the transformative power of forgiveness and the Violet Flame. 

One effective tool I want to share is the Violet Flame or light, which can easily be applied at any moment and practiced continually without outside assistance. The color violet embodies the energy of transmutation, making it ideal for changing negative thoughts, feelings, situations, or even people—yourself included—into something positive.

First, find a comfortable place to sit or lie down to begin your mindfulness coaching journey. I use the term 'play' because your mental body often resists terms like 'exercise' or 'discipline.' This resistance can hinder your ability to take the loving time you deserve for nervous system regulation and somatic awareness, especially when it comes to forgiveness. The mental body would rather cling to being right than allow happiness to flow.

Create a peaceful environment where you can connect with your inner wisdom; your soul! This could be a cozy chair by a sunlit window or a serene spot in nature. 

To make it as easy as possible, simply move a chair to a window in your home during a time when you will not be distracted by others. Clearly communicate to those around you that you are taking time for yourself for the next 30 minutes to an hour, setting the intention not to be interrupted. By doing so, you take responsibility for your well-being and avoid placing blame on others should interruptions occur.

Sit in your chair, close your eyes, and envision a cylinder-shaped tube of brilliant violet light. Expand the tube so that more than one person can stand within it. Invite the person, place, or situation that challenges you to step into the violet light. You can enter the tube after them or go in first. 

Stand face to face, acknowledging that it may be difficult to look into each other's eyes at first. Don't worry—just stand there. Allow the violet light to fill your entire body by breathing it in continuously. The other person will begin to do the same. Stay in the light for at least 15 minutes, absorbing the violet light until it transforms into brilliant white light. 

Now, look into each other's eyes; this will feel easier as the negative thoughts and feelings you've held are transmuted into positivity by the violet light. Thank one another for participating in this process that clears the ego-based fears and lower mental bodies with the love and knowingness of your souls. 

You can embrace, hug, or express affection in whatever way feels appropriate, realizing that you are the same and that there is no judgment of self or others. This connection is possible because, while breathing in the violet light, clarity of higher truth was revealed, allowing you to express emotions like anger or blame without harm to yourself or others. 

Step out of the tube, but take the white light with you for the rest of your day. You can practice this every day, whether with the same person facing a long-standing challenge or in an instant as new challenges arise. 

A Testimony: 

During my divorce, I used the practice of transmuting with the violet flame daily for six months. Consumed by anger, resentment, and fear, I felt like a victim in a battle filled with escalating emotions and attorneys. Then I remembered my commitment to live in peace, love, and inner freedom. 

I recognized that forgiveness was the key to returning to that state—offering forgiveness to my estranged husband, to the situation, and most importantly, to myself. I had to release the belief that I was 'less than' or deserving of loss, and I learned to give myself what I hoped to receive from others. 

Through the guidance of the violet flame practice, I chose forgiveness repeatedly, regardless of external circumstances. One week before our court date, everything shifted. My former husband approached me with tears, sincerely apologized, and returned what had been contested—the home and the agreed financial settlement. We chose peace over conflict and compassion over fear. 

That moment demonstrated the true power of forgiveness and the somatic practice of feeling the violet flame transmuting everything within me that did not serve my intention of love. Although our lives took different paths, we both moved forward with love instead of resentment. Forgiveness liberated us—not by changing the past, but by transforming how we held it within ourselves. 

From the soul’s perspective, forgiveness reveals a deeper truth: there was never anything to forgive—only experiences guiding us back to love. 

Affirmations: 

I am safe within myself. I am worthy of love, connection, and belonging.  

I release the pain of the past and return to trust in myself.  

I do not abandon myself—I meet myself with love and presence.  

In this moment, I am supported, whole, and not alone.

Find a comfortable seated or lying position. Allow your body to soften and your breath to slow. 

Gently close your eyes. 

Take a slow breath in through your nose… and exhale through your mouth. 

Again — inhale slowly and exhale, letting your shoulders drop. 

Now bring your awareness into your body. 

Notice the weight of your body being supported by the earth beneath you. You do not need to hold yourself up right now. 

You are held. 

Place one hand over your heart and one hand over your belly. 

Feel the warmth of your hands. Feel your breath moving beneath them. 

There is nothing to fix. Nothing to change. Nothing to become. 

Just feel. 

Begin to Listen to Your Body 

Bring your awareness to your heart center. Notice any sensation present: warmth, tightness, openness, heaviness, numbness — all are welcome. 

Silently say to yourself: “I am here with you.” 

Pause and feel what happens in your body. Now bring awareness to your belly. 

This is the center of safety, identity, and emotional memory. Breathe gently into this space. Say softly inside: “You are safe with me.” 

Allow your nervous system to hear these words, as this is an essential aspect of nervous system regulation. 

Reclaim Self-Love 

Imagine now that you are sitting across from yourself — the younger you, the hurting you, the tired you, the brave you — all aspects of you. 

Notice what you feel in your body as you see yourself. Without forcing anything, gently say: “I will not abandon you.” 

Pause. 

Feel the response in your chest, throat, or belly. 

Now say: “I choose you.” 

Breathe slowly. 

And then: “I love you exactly as you are.” 

Let your body receive those words instead of trying to believe them. Somatic love is not thinking — it is allowing. 

Integration - Merging with Self Love 

Imagine now that the version of you sitting across from you stands up and slowly steps into your heart. 

You are no longer separate. You are together. Whole. 

Notice how your body feels when there is no one to chase, no one to prove yourself to, no one to become for love. 

Just breathing. Just being. Just loving. 

Closing 

Take three slow breaths. 

With each exhale, allow your body to soften more deeply into support. When you are ready, gently open your eyes. 

Carry this knowing with you: 

You are the love you have been searching for. And your body already knows how to return you there through mindfulness coaching and somatic awareness.